‘Never Long Enough’ helps families honor loved ones’ lives

An illustration from Never Long Enough by Krakoff and Sider.

By DAVID CRUMM
ReadTheSpirit magazine editor

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This year, the CDC reports that more than 2.6 million men, women and children will die in the U.S.—leaving tens of millions of family members grieving the loss. Year after year, this is a sad truth about life in America that most of us tend to overlook.

Then, often with no warning, the death of a loved one strikes us like a thunderclap! Suddenly, we are in the circle of grief, as well, pondering with friends and family the loss we share.

Fortunately for the countless mourning families, each year, thoughtful community leaders stand ready to assist. More than that, they always are looking for fresh ways to help. Among the most creative of these compassionate professionals are the writer and the artist behind Never Long Enough, a unique new illustrated book that prompts families to share life’s most important memories.

Right now, word of mouth about the new book is spreading coast to coast.

An elementary-school teacher in Illinois heard about the book a week ago and told me, “I’ve got a child in my class whose grandmother is dying and it’s such a difficult time for her that I can see effects in our class of what’s going on at home with her family. I’ve been looking for something that might help—so I’d like to try offering this book. I love the idea that the book sets aside space to write something yourself. I’m a teacher, so that’s something I really want to encourage: Talk and remember stories—and then express yourself. What a great idea.”

Clergy, health-care providers, funeral directors, educators, social workers all are among the first readers of this brand new book. (Want a copy? You can order it in a reasonably priced paperback format. Or, if you’re intending the book as a keepsake for someone, there’s also a hardcover.)

Illustration of a hug from Never Long Enough.

“Wow, this is different. We can flip through the pages with someone—until we reach a page where the picture or the words just click. That’s a great idea,” said a social worker who first heard about the book late last week. As she talked, she flipped through the book’s pages herself, stopping at the image of a hug. “And I love it that there are images in this book for everyone. It’s not just for one cultural group. Everyone seems to be welcome here.”

That response was echoed by the Rev. Kenneth Flowers, a prominent Detroit pastor known for his decades of work on civil rights and cross-cultural issues.

“This beautiful work transcends race, religion, ethnicity and sexual orientation as everyone in the human family must one day face the death of a loved one,” Flowers said after seeing an early copy of the book. “When that happens, we inevitably ask God, ‘Why now?’ Even when my grandmother died at 94 and my father at 38, I equally felt that I didn’t have them long enough. Yet, the comforting words contained in this cutting-edge book touched my heart—50 years after my father’s death and 18 years after my grandmother’s death.”

That’s the unique chemistry of this book:

  • Thought-provoking artwork in a wide range of styles so everyone can find inspirational images to ponder
  • Coupled with reassuring words that echo our natural reflections at a time of death
  • All bound into a book with extra space set aside to add personal memories either with a pen or pencils—or by pasting favorite photos or clippings.

SHARING STORIES IN NEW WAYS

Rabbi Joseph H. Krakoff

In creating Never Long Enough, Rabbi Joseph H. Krakoff and artist Dr. Michelle Y. Sider brought together their professional expertise with families.

Krakoff drew on lessons learned in many years of counseling adults and children wrestling with death, grief and remembrance. Sider’s years working as an artist, arts educator and psychologist influenced her approach in creating evocative images that demonstrate how art can help to unlock emotions and heal the heart. Together, they crafted an interactive keepsake book for families and friends, complete with pages to add personal reflections thereby transforming the book into an individualized tribute to a loved one.

Artist Michelle Sider

Never Long Enough is designed to be read along with someone nearing the end of life—or, it can be read by mourners after a death. Whenever this book is opened, it becomes an active invitation for conversation, lifting up memories and preserving the legacy of someone’s life.

“For many years, I’ve been working with families to guide them through honest conversations about the legacy and the values that remain even as someone we love dies,” Krakoff said. “This text has already comforted so many families through this difficult, emotionally charged time.”

Krakoff developed the thought-provoking text while in Rabbinical School at the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York City. As he shared that text with families, he realized that powerful imagery would heighten the healing process of reflection.

Sider agreed. “I’ve seen how art can help people express themselves, bring out their feelings and tell stories,” she said. “By weaving the words and art together, I hope the reader will move slowly through the pages and reflect deeply on the words. Reading and responding to this book as an individual or with loved ones becomes a very compelling and helpful experience.”

‘STILL A LOT OF HEALING TO DO’

Death isn’t the end. All the world’s great religions include some promise that our years on the earth aren’t the limit of our lives—a legacy remains. Some faiths include a vivid description of heaven where saints and angels live eternally, other faiths teach about reincarnation—and still other traditions promise that, even if there is no specific spiritual afterlife, our memories, values and legacy can resonate through future generations.

This book doesn’t teach doctrine. Rather, the pages invite readers to remember a person’s living legacy that is universally celebrated in all faiths.

The key is that this book centers on conversations family and friends need to have around the end of a loved one’s life—a process encouraged by clergy, chaplains and counselors of all traditions.

“This is so important,” Krakoff said. “It is a universal truth. We need to guide individuals and their families to have honest conversations about the end of life. Even when we reach the point that we can no longer heal the physical body, there is still a lot of healing to do, emotionally and psychologically. Whatever your religious tradition might be, that’s a truth we share.”

As a rabbi, Krakoff has worked with families in this way for a long time. Currently, he is the Senior Director at the Jewish Hospice and Chaplaincy Network, so he serves and teaches across a much wider territory. Over the years, he often showed families the poem that inspired the text in this book. Then, inspired by Krakoff’s helpful text, Sider envisioned the accompanying artwork. Using various techniques from charcoal to paint, she created stirring images that powerfully illuminate the text.

“I’ve always looked for ways to use art to help others—it’s a way of getting to our emotions through images that connect with our lives,” Sider said. “As we go through the end of a life, we often find a disconnect with the intellectual process as these deep feelings emerge. Using our senses through art, movement and music helps us to tap into what’s happening to us and to our families in a different way.”

“As we developed this book,” Krakoff added, “I liked the way that readers can linger on any page that connects with their experience. As you move through the book at whatever pace you choose, we’re trying to evoke memories of those amazing, special, incredible times you’ve shared with people. We ask you to remember laughing, kissing, hugging. Yes, we know we will bring tears, but we also want to bring smiles and happiness.”

‘DON’T WAIT TO TALK’

There’s also a practical benefit in this process, especially if families go through the book with their loved one before death, Krakoff explained. “As a rabbi, so many times I hear from families who feel it’s an obligation to share memories at a funeral. In Judaism, there’s also a traditional time of sharing stories and memories in the home, a period of days called shiva. Different religious traditions have different ways of doing this, but it’s a universal desire to share the most important memories with others.

“But, how do we identify and lift up those memories? After someone dies, we’re sometimes challenged to remember what we want to share. If we do recall important memories, we may forget them later. We hope that the whole process of using this book—reading it together, talking, sharing, making some notes—will make this a much richer experience for the family, and one we can preserve.”

Sider said, “Another way to describe this is to say: Our book reminds people they’re not alone. In a sense, giving someone this book, then spending time with it, is like giving someone a really big hug.”

“I like that description,” Krakoff said. “And, I really do hope people take our invitation to go through this book with someone while they’re still alive. In my work with the hospice network, I do this a lot. I sit and talk with people nearing the end of life. And I can tell you, it’s so important.

“Then, after a death as I’m preparing a eulogy, people share more memories with me—especially things they wish they’d said about the person. I always wonder: How many of these things did they actually say while the person was still alive? Did they give that person an opportunity to talk about these wonderful things that we’re sharing after death. In this book, we’re giving people permission and encouragement to have those conversations whenever they’re ready. And, I hope people don’t wait to talk.”

 

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Barbara Mahany on ‘Motherprayer: Lessons in Loving’

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By DAVID CRUMM
ReadTheSpirit Editor

We are publishing this interview with Barbara Mahany before Mother’s Day 2017 in the hope that our readers will order her book right now. When the book arrives, first, read it yourself and jot a personal note in the front of the book—then give it to a mother you love.

It’s that kind of rare book—as thought-provoking and inspiring for the “kids” (especially adult kids) who read it as well as for the “mothers” who will turn these pages. The short chapters are perfect for daily reflection. And, watch out! This book may move you to action. Occasionally, after reading a short chapter, you may feel moved to write a letter—either to a mom you know, or if you’re a mom yourself, to an adult “kid” you love.

This is a memoir spanning many years of maternal experiences by Barbara Mahany, perhaps best known from her earlier life as a beloved Chicago Tribune columnist. Even if you don’t live in the Chicago area, you may have enjoyed her columns via wire services or the Internet. Her columns are perceptive viewpoints on daily life that you’re likely to find someone tacking to a bulletin board at the office—or to a refrigerator door.

So, that’s our main message in publishing this interview with Barbara today: Get the book now and you’re sure to have a marvelous experience sharing these stories in the weeks ahead!

‘HOW DEEPLY YOU ARE LOVED’

Barbara had an advantage in preparing this 200-page volume. Remember our recent cover-story interview with author Maggie Rowe, who “workshopped” her book by reading aloud sections of her manuscript on stage before crowds in Hollywood?

Well, Barbara had a similar experience with at least a couple of the chapters in Motherprayer. She did not sit down at a blank computer screen and type up these reflections in a matter of weeks, or even months. This book includes pieces that span a decade of writing, including a couple of revised versions of columns she published via the Tribune, before she retired in 2012.

“A few of the essays in the new book were published in earlier drafts in the Tribune and they always got a huge response from readers—so I know that readers appreciate it when I write about these things,” Barbara said in our interview. That’s the same way Maggie Rowe felt confident about how readers would respond to her memoir. Audiences already have confirmed the value of the prose.

Barbara has another big advantage in connecting with readers through her new memoir: These little stories from daily life are artfully written so that they come across as bigger than her own life, and in fact many of them are even bigger than motherhood itself. They are about parents’ deep connection with the next generation. As we all inevitably age and reflect on the all-too-fleeting span of our lives—as Barbara has herself over many years of living and writing—we pin our deepest spiritual hopes on the potential of love. Are we loved? Have we loved others?

A search for loving connection lies at the core of our deepest spiritual yearnings.

“If I had to sum up what this book represents,” Barbara said in our interview, “it’s my attempt to pull together in one record a message to my boys: How deeply you are loved!”

And, as precise and moving as these little daily scenes are in the book, Barbara follows the best of journalistic style by offering each true story in a universal way.

“I realize that not every story in the book will connect with every reader. But the book is quite a pastiche! Here’s a moment. Then, a few pages later, here’s another moment. Maybe this one is the perfect entry point for you. Oh, no? Not a part of your experience? Well, then, turn the page and: Consider this next one,” Barbara said. “My point here is not to put myself and my children in the spotlight. That may sound like a strange thing to say, since this is a book about our experiences. But this book took me more than 10 years to write and it really is my way of offering to readers many ways we can connect and think about our experiences as parents.

“Parents understand that our lives are full of nonstop ephemeral moments. One amazing thing happens after another—and you’re sure, in each moment, that you’ll never forget what happens. But we do. We all forget things. Then, in reading through this book, I hope parents will be triggered to remember and think in new ways about so many experiences we’ve shared.”

‘AHEM!’ YOU’LL WANT TO READ ALOUD

If you get a copy of this book, you’ll want to clear your throat. At some point, you’re going to want to read aloud to a friend or relative. In fact, if you’re among the millions of Americans who participate in a weekly small group (ranging from congregations to libraries to coffee shops to living rooms), then you’ll most likely festoon this volume with bookmarks to remember passages you could share with your group.

Want an example? Page 5 begins like this:

Prayer, on my good days, is how I breathe. It’s listening, as much as whispering. It takes the wobble out of my knees and puts the wallop into my heart’s beat. It’s woven into the hours, from cock’s crow until the moment my eyelids finally flutter closed for the day. It unspools without measure or meter. It might be a geyser. Or merely a murmur.

Another example, also on the theme of morning prayer comes on page 30:

When your morning prayer on a particular day—a day that demands much, too much, from its players—seems most aptly punctuated by the stirring of spoon through a muddle of oats. When the first thing you reach for, come dawn, is the grain that amounts to a mother’s amulet. And as you stand there tossing in handfuls of shriveled-up gems—fruits the colors of amethyst, ruby, garnet, or onyx—you imagine yourself some sort of sorceress, arming your brood for the slaying of dragons to come.

And—as she does periodically throughout this book—Barbara finishes this meditation on stirring a pot of oats with her recipe for what she calls “Worth-the-Wait Porridge.”

These early pieces feature scenes interacting with her children while they were young. But, late in the book, she includes meditations written as a parent of grown-up kids. One that appeared in the Tribune is called “Welcome Home, College Freshman. XOXO”

I’ve long savored the romance of November, when the light turns molasses, the air crisp and planes fill the sky, the crisscrossing of hearts headed home. But never before had I felt it so deeply. This year, one of those jets is carrying home my firstborn. Now, all these months later, I can only imagine the boy who’s more of a man now. Calls home just once a week, Sundays, after 5 p.m. “Circa 1975,” I call it, just like when I was a freshman in college and had to wait for the rates to go down to report to the grown-ups back home.

A few pages later, she shares her favorite autumn recipe: “Welcome-Home Brisket.”

‘MY NET IS MADE OF WORDS’

In our interview, I asked Barbara why her books are so—well, so read-aloudable. “Do you think it’s part of the backgrounds we share in journalism? I know the best journalism often is written so that it can be voiced.”

But Barbara, as she often does in the book, surprised me with her answer. She said, “I liken it to being a butterfly catcher—and my net is made of words.”

“That’s true,” I said chuckling at the elegance of that line (which appears in her book, too, by the way). “But your net also is made of food, right? Readers can cook along with you as they enjoy these stories.”

“I’m a whole body writer—and I believe that prayer involves the whole body as well,” she said. “And in my relationship to my boys, my prayer naturally is connected with food—just as I describe the morning ritual of making porridge.

“There are times when the deepest way we can feed the people we love is by setting something in front of them that speaks to them on all levels of life,” she continued. “I pay attention and know that my son’s favorite is macaroni and cheese. So, on a particularly difficult day, I know I can’t go with him into whatever he may be facing, but I certainly can put a bowl of macaroni and cheese in front of him, when he returns home. It’s a form of prayerfulness that’s beyond words. It’s a way of filling a deep place in someone’s life. I believe it matters.”

In fact, she added, “I understand the kitchen counter and the dining room table as altars of the home. Putting out food is a form of holy communion at the deepest level. Now, I’m no Martha Stewart! And I certainly have pulled crazy stuff out of the freezer to make an easy supper. But I know that, at its best, food can tap into the liturgical DNA that speaks to all of us on all levels.”

And, finally, this book also is sprinkled with prayers that readers may very likely find themselves jotting down for their own use—perhaps at mealtimes. Simple prayers, often. As simple and nourishing as the oatmeal.

Here’s a wonderful little prayer to start the day.

Dear God, I thank you. Now let us tiptoe softly into this day.

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Care to read more?

GET THE BOOKMotherprayer is available on Amazon in hardcover and Kindle.

‘SLOWING TIME’—You might also want to learn about Mahany’s book Slowing Time by enjoying this 2015 ReadTheSpirit interview with her about that earlier project.

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Remembering the Armenian Genocide, despite turmoil in Hollywood

Armenian-Genocide-Memorial Rodney Curtis

Visitors at the Armenian Genocide Memorial complex at Tsitsernakaberd in Yerevan. Photo by Rita Willaert, Belgium

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By DAVID CRUMM
ReadTheSpirit Editor

How tragic to find the Armenian Genocide playing out in the Arts & Entertainment sections of American newspapers and magazines, this week!

Touching off the dispute are Turkish nationalists who are so upset about the new movie The Promise, debuting in theaters this week, that they have released a competing feature film that denies the larger Turkish culpability in the Armenian Genocide. What’s more, Turkish media activists have tried to sabotage release of The Promise by, among other things, dive bombing the movie’s IMDB page with thousands of low ratings.

Movie still from The Promise with Christian Bale

Christian Bale in The Promise

If you’re just discovering this news story, here is a helpful New York Times overview of the dispute and the dueling feature films, headlined: Battle Over 2 Films Reflects Turkey’s Quest to Control a Bitter History. You also might have heard about this dispute, over the past week, on National Public Radio or in a regional newspaper near you.

Ironically, film critics themselves have been tough on The Promise. Movie critics are not chiding The Promise for its portrayal of the Armenian Genocide itself; rather, they are criticizing the addition of a melodramatic love story. Care to read a couple of those critics’ reviews? Here is the NYTimes review of the film; and here is the Rolling Stone review.

This week, if you care about international human rights issues, you may want to invest in buying a ticket to see The Promise—if you can find it showing at a theater near your home. That’s the movie that tells the more accurate story of the genocide, so presumably a ticket to the film will add support to that more truthful effort. But this column is not intended as a movie review.

A JOURNALISTIC PERSPECTIVE

Here at ReadTheSpirit, we pride ourselves in following the best of journalistic practices: accuracy, fairness and balance. Our colleagues courageously report on a host of thorny issues concerning racial, ethnic, cultural and religious diversity. And, every year, we publish fresh stories highlighting the need to remember the dangers of genocide and other threats to human rights.

This week, our Holidays & Festivals columnist Stephanie Fenton is covering the annual observance of Yom Hashoah, which continues until sundown on April 24, 2017.  April 24 also is marked, each year, as Armenian Genocide Remembrance Day by the Armenian diaspora around the world. Here at ReadTheSpirit, we have been actively covering centennial milestones, including the genocide, that are part of observances recalling the World War I era. One of the most moving pieces we’ve published on the centennial of the genocide is Rodney Curtis’s short memoir about visiting the memorial complex at Yerevan.

(Note to readers who are new to this subject: If you want to learn more about the history of this genocide, right now, Wikipedia has a fairly detailed and balanced account.)

From a journalistic perspective, Turkish-nationalist activists cannot be allowed to erase this chapter of history. And, even as we say that, let’s be clear: The world is long past trying to heap guilt for the Holocaust/Shoah in the 1930s and 1940s on the collective shoulders of the millions of Germans and German-Americans living today. The Armenian Genocide took place even earlier. Turkish citizens and Turkish-Americans should realize that this is not a question of heaping guilt for those crimes 102 years ago on the collective Turkish population today.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?
LEARN! REMEMBER!

The world must remember. That’s the bottom line and the point of this column is to offer our readers links and resources to dig into this subject—and share accurate information with friends and colleagues. That’s the least we can do in this week’s issue of ReadTheSpirit, which coincides with both genocide memorial days. We must remember.

The Promise is a flawed film, no question, but we recommend it as a milestone in moviemaking. Unlike the Shoah, few feature films have tried to grapple with the Armenian Genocide. Another option is the 2002 Atom Egoyan movie, Ararat. Like The Promise, Egoyan’s film received mixed reviews. One complaint about Arrarat is that the multi-layered narrative, which amounts to a movie within a movie, was difficult to follow.

The Burning Tigris cover by Peter Balakian (1)

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In my office at ReadTheSpirit, I have two books on my shelf about the genocide. One is the 2002 HarperCollins history of the genocide and its legacy by Peter Balakian, The Burning Tigris: The Armenian Genocide and America’s Response. This book, in particular, has an entire chapter on what happened on April 24, 1915, when Turks wiped out a cross section of Armenia’s civic and cultural leaders in an attempt to cripple further resistance. If you appreciate Balakian’s first volume, then you may also want to order his 2009 follow-up book, Black Dog of Fate.

The other book I keep handy is a University of Virginia Press book by the late historian Merrill D. Peterson, called Starving ArmeniansDuring his lifetime, I interviewed Peterson on a number of occasions, mainly anniversaries of key events in American history. He was an expert on Thomas Jefferson, the Civil War era and, perhaps most importantly, he studied how Americans thought about history over time. His book, like Balakian’s Tigris, opens a window on the Armenian Genocide from the perspective of people around the world, learning about these events and trying to respond.

Want something more substantial? First, you should know that Balakian’s Tigris is well documented and his 393 pages of text are followed by 60 pages of end notes and bibliography for further reading. But, in 2017, two other major histories are widely praised, both from university presses and weighing in at more than 500 pages. Taner Akcam’s 2012 The Young Turks’ Crimes Against Humanity was strengthened by the author’s access to Ottoman Empire archives. Ronald Grigor Suny’s They Can Live in the Desert but Nowhere Else is part of the Princeton University Press’s important series of books called Human Rights and Crimes against HumanityOther volumes in the series range from the Stalin era to contemporary conflicts.

As recently as Sunday, April 23, 2017, The New York Times reported on Akcam’s ongoing, worldwide search of archives, calling him “The Sherlock Holmes of Armenian Genocide.”

This week, the team here at ReadTheSpirit urges you to explore these resources, learn and share these stories.

We must remember.

 

 

 

 

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Maggie Rowe, Sin Bravely and Hollywood’s new compassion for evangelicals

Cover of Sin Bravely by Maggie Rowe (1)

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By DAVID CRUMM
ReadTheSpirit Editor

Hollywood’s century-old love-hate relationship with evangelicals is swinging in the direction of compassionate humor, these days. That’s thanks to the kind hearts and keen talents of writers like Pete Holmes and, debuting in book form this spring, Maggie Rowe.

If you’ve somehow missed the recent coast-to-coast coverage of Pete Holmes’ hit HBO series Crashingthen here’s the gist of it: Real-life stand-up comic Pete Holmes collaborated with Judd Apatow to create a TV series about the struggles of a comic trying to survive in the competitive world of comedy clubs. But, as it turns out, the biggest theme highlighted in media coverage of Crashing (including the New York Times and National Public Radio) is that Holmes also is trying to maintain a loving relationship with his evangelical Christian family. So far, the real Holmes and the series’ main character, a fictionalized version of Holmes, are expressing equal amounts of good, friendly humor toward the evangelical community.

The same can be said of Maggie Rowe, who more than likely will show up on your TV screen in the next year or so with a series based on her new memoir, Sin Bravely: A Memoir of Spiritual DisobedienceThis week, ReadTheSpirit is urging readers to discover this remarkable writer, right now. Then, you’ll be way ahead of the trend when her story continues to flower on TV. Already, her memoir has enthusiastic endorsements from:

  • Mitch Hurwitz, creator of Arrested Development (“This book is so honest, so chock full of struggle and philosophical profundity—and ultimately so heartbreakingly funny …”)
  • Peter Baynham, co-writer of Borat (“Maggie Rowe’s writing is a rare thing: brilliant, intelligent, hilarious, thoughtful, and, most importantly, utterly believable.”)
  • And, Jill Soloway, creator of Tranparent (“A beautifully written, deeply funny memoir.”)

Consider those blurbs part of the process of translating this real-life story into a hit TV series. Maggie Rowe confirms that she’s actively pursuing that idea. She understands the process, because she already is working as a Hollywood insider. She’s the only woman on the writing staff of the current version of Arrested Development.

A NEW KIND OF DIVINE COMEDY

Maggie Rowe author of Sin Bravely

Maggie Rowe, author of Sin Bravely

Sin Bravely tells the true story of a debilitating crisis sparked by Maggie’s upbringing in a devoutly evangelical family. From an early age, Maggie became obsessed with threats of Hell and damnation to the point that, while attending college, she could no longer function without outside help. Ultimately, she decided to check herself into a Christian treatment facility and this memoir mainly focuses on what happens, as a result. We won’t spoil the final scenes of this memoir by describing them—but part of her recovery involves, as the title says, sinning bravely.

In an interview, I told Maggie: “Given the way Hollywood sometimes portrays religious zealots on TV and in the movies, this memoir is remarkable for its kind comedy.”

“I love that phrase,” she said, in response. “I have never used that phrase to describe it, but I think your description is a great complement.”

In response, I added: “As you read the story about your quirky fellow in-mates in the treatment program and the well-meaning if off-base staff, it’s obvious that you could have really skewered these people. They’re easy marks for comedy. But that’s not what we find in these chapters. You really do have a kind heart for these folks.”

“Absolutely! Absolutely!” she said.

“Even Bethanie, who could have been cast as the Nurse Ratched in your story, clearly is someone you regard with compassion in retrospect, right?”

“Yes,” she said. “Bethanie was not trying to harm anyone. She was doing the best she could. And I should explain: I was in an evangelical psychiatric recovery facility. The place was designed for Christians with psychological difficulties who wanted both Bible-based work on spirituality and also psychiatrists on staff who could prescribe medicine. One important detail here is: Everyone in the facility was there voluntarily, so that’s a big difference if people are thinking that I was locked up in some kind of Cuckoo’s Nest. We all chose to be there. That’s a key difference.

“Then, within that circle of people you’ll meet in the book—yes, there are some really troubled individuals and I tell their stories along with my own. I think the main thing to consider in reading my book is: Hey, life is hard for all of us. And, we’re all trying to do the best we can.”

That’s the compassionate tone Maggie says she plans to maintain as she develops this memoir into a TV series.

WHAT’S NEW?
HONEST COMEDY ABOUT FAITH

The idea of savvy, successful young writers turning a kind eye toward staunch evangelicals—as Pete Holmes has done and Maggie Rowe hopes to do—is a remarkable turn in Hollywood culture. Even 100 years ago, movie directors felt besieged by Fundamentalists and were eager to turn the tables. The Library of Congress marks Hells Hinges (1916) as a cultural landmark in silent cinema. The early Western epic stars William S. Hart as a heroic cowboy, squaring off against a demented clergyman who is so evil that he winds up helping to burn down his own church.

Over the subsequent century, religious movies tended to veer from sentimental spirituality (including the swords-and-sandals epics of the 1960s) to vicious send-ups of religion (such as Kevin Smith’s biting satire Dogma). Over the past decade, the rise of a so-called “Christian film industry” has produced dozens of formulaic evangelical movies, most of which are dismissed or ignored by serious film critics. The basic problem with “religious movies” is simply: With some notable exceptions, few filmmakers manage to portray real religious experiences in honest, heart-felt ways.

Overall, Christian themes have fared better in TV series, including shows on cable channels like Hallmark. Now in its fourth season, When Calls the Heart is a popular romantic drama set a century ago in western Canada and regularly features characters kneeling in prayer and talking about their faith.

What’s new, right now, is the sharp-edged talent of Hollywood heavyweights like Judd Appatow or writers, like Maggie, whose credits include co-writing on the hit series Arrested Development. They’re willing to risk their reputations by exploring religion in a balanced way. In one episode of the series Crashing, for example, Appatow and Holmes put some of the smartest, wisest lines in the mouths of the main character’s evangelical parents. That’s part of the pleasant surprise in Crashing—the evangelicals aren’t cast as the butt of every joke. There clearly is potential for a new genre of sophisticated comedy that isn’t afraid to love the evangelicals that other comics, like Kevin Smith, regarded as merely fodder for a good roasting.

HOW SHE DID IT

Maggie’s memoir is a “spiritual page turner.” You’re likely to find yourself smiling and wanting to keep reading scene after scene. And that’s an exceptional complement for a “religious book.” How did she achieve that style? Well, she had some help.

In addition to writing for Arrested Development, Maggie coordinates Sit n Spin, a regular gathering in Hollywood in which a lineup of writers perform their own work. “Sit n Spin has been going on for 14 years now. Each night, it’s five people reading from their work, generally comedic essays about their lives. In choosing people to read, I look for stories that are deeply personal.”

Maggie performed drafts of several key chapters for her new book at Sit n Spin and then continued revising the texts based on audience responses.

“It’s a great way to develop material,” she said. “You get up in front of the audience and you get immediate feedback—responses you couldn’t get if you were writing alone in your room. And the reactions I got? Very positive. The audience really responds to honesty. People can tell right away when you’re exaggerating. So, this helped me to stay very true to what happened. The humor in the book comes from the honesty and I think that’s what you’re responding to when you call this compassionate.”

THE REST OF THE STORY?

So, who should play Maggie in the TV version?

“Well, I’m already pitching the TV version of this, so that’s a good question. Who should play me? Let me think,” Maggie said. “Well, I love Chloe Sevigny‘s work and I also love Brie Larson. But, for this, I probably would try to get Taylor Schilling or Shailene Woodley. I like Woodley in that movie, The Spectacular Now. She’d be wonderful in this TV series.”

Expanding the new book into an entire series would require exploring many tangents from the basic story in the new book. “I might start the TV series with the first day at the facility, but then the story would flash to my life at different ages. We’d expand on the other characters, too, and learn more about them than you’ll find in the book. I’m a fan of Crashing and I would want my series to do the same thing—treat the characters with sympathy. These are people you’ll like and you’ll care about as you find out more about their lives.”

Meanwhile, Maggie already is writing the next volume in her memoir. And, for those left hanging after the last page in this first book, I asked: “So, let’s not leave our readers in suspense when it comes to your attitude about religion. You learned, at an early age, that a lot of evangelical preaching—like Hellfire and brimstone—can be downright dangerous. But, you didn’t come away from these experiences as an enemy of religion, did you?”

“No, I didn’t come away with a screw-you attitude toward faith. Not at all,” she said. “Over the years, I did change from my earlier beliefs that everything in the Bible is literally true. Now, I see the Bible as containing figurative language, poetry and lots of pointers to the truth, but it’s not a book to be read literally in the way I experienced it as a child. Today, I like to follow people like Rob Bell and Peter Rollins. I also like to read mystics—Christian and Buddhist and Hindu mystics. I’d say I’m a spiritual person with ties to a Christian faith.”

What’s more, “I’ve learned to live with my anxieties. It helps that I now know I was wrestling with a kind of OCD that led to my excessive anxiety. My form of OCD sometimes is described as ‘existential obsession’ and I still have a tendency to struggle with some of those questions from time to time. But I think I’ve come away from these experiences with a healthy spirituality, today, and I hope that people who hear my story will find some reassurance that they can find that balance, too.”

 

 

 

 

 

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PBS’s ‘The Great War’ marks the centennial of America entering World War I

PBS The Great War about World War I (1)By DAVID CRUMM
Editor of ReadTheSpirit magazine

Whatever else you do this week, watch or record the moving, thought-provoking PBS series The Great War! Since it totals six hours, broadcast over three evenings, you may want to record the documentary to watch at your own pace. Or, look for other viewing options on the PBS network website. Or, consider ordering it on DVD from Amazon.

Our readers with a global perspective may wonder why PBS is suddenly marking this centennial, which most news media around the world began marking in 2014. The answer lies in the over-arching theme of this sprawling film: PBS is examining the war from an American perspective and the U.S. did not join the conflict until April 6, 1917. This month, then, is “our” centennial as Americans.

In fact, that American point of view opens up some very thought-provoking—and timely—reflections on our American attitudes toward racial, ethnic and gender diversity. As we learn in Part 1 of the three-part series, when the war broke out in 1914, one third of “Americans” had been born in some other country. We were truly a nation of immigrants and the early years of the European war sorely tested the strength of what we then called our Melting Pot.

The first night of the series explains how Americans slowly turned against Germany in this conflict. Beyond German attacks on American ships, including the infamous sinking of the ocean liner The Lusitania, we learn that Americans were horrified when Germany introduced poison gas along the Western Front in France. Thinking about the public response to that first attack is as timely as headlines out of Syria in recent days.

However you respond to Part 1—and particularly if find it merely a refresher course on events you already know by heart—make sure you don’t miss Part 2. That’s when the film opens up to examine deeper issues of diversity. Many influential Americans who came to support the U.S. entry into the conflict did so because they felt an expanded U.S. Army would finish the job of the Melting Pot. A popular phrase in that era was that serving together in the war would “yank the hyphen out of these immigrants.” Americans would no longer be Polish-Americans or Italian-Americans or Irish-Americans. Through the crucible of warfare, veterans would return home as simply “Americans.”

Whatever you think about that idea—the fact is that President Wilson and most other American leaders had a tragically near-sighted view of whose civil rights they were trying to promote. Wilson was a Southerner and outspoken racist who personally ensured that Jim Crow rules were instituted in Washington D.C. He also tried to fight women campaigning for a universal right to vote with police powers and imprisonment. The second part of this documentary extensively explores those conflicts that reshaped our own 20th Century history as much as the bloody battles in French trenches.

Why were did “we” join the war in 1917? Wilson declared that it was so the world could “be made safe for democracy.”

Given the oppression and violence against minorities on the homefront, one of the rallying cries in civil rights protests became: “Mr. President, why not make America safe for democracy?”

And that question is as urgent today as it was a century ago.

Care to read more?

Cover Philip Jenkins The Great and Holy War on World War IReadTheSpirit has been covering the centennial of the First World War since the anniversary of the conflict’s outbreak in the summer of 1914. Among our many previous columns, here are several of the most popular with readers:

‘Green Fields of France’Peacemaker and author Daniel Buttry posted this series of reflections and videos on some of the haunting music connected with WWI.

Pope FrancisThe pontiff marked the centennial in 1914 with pointed remarks about the danger and the legacy of war. We published an excerpt.

‘The Great and Holy War’We still believe that the most important book on the World War I centennial is by Philip Jenkins. His book describes the underlying religious movements that fueled the war and its aftermath. Three years after publication, Jenkins’ book remains unique—and vitally important to anyone who cares about religious influences in our world.

 

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Vivid video reminders that ‘Media’ are not ‘enemies of the people’

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Filmmaker Robert Flaherty made the “Man of Aran” (center) one of the world’s most famous fishermen. But, in the process, Flaherty nearly killed the man by producing a dangerous scene in a small boat in the midst of a real storm.

By DAVID CRUMM
ReadTheSpirit Editor

As supporters of American news media face the fury of a president who seems determined to demonize journalists, several vivid reminders of courageous media professionals are popping up for home viewing, this spring. If you care about this issue—then these are ideal, thought-provoking films for individual viewing and small-group discussion.

The three we are recommending, this week, are:

What these films show us—along with the dozens of breathtaking movie clips included within them—are that the struggles over truth and manipulation in non-fiction media are at least a century old. These films also demonstrate the enormous power of American media—in particular American movies (whether shown in theaters or broadcast via other means)—to shape opinions worldwide.

Of course, the current U.S. president is not so discriminating in his tirades against “The Media.” He lumps together his attacks on Hollywood professionals along with network-TV reporters, staffers at major news magazines, newspaper writers and journalists in other formats. The president is non-discriminating in his fury. He slams anyone who dares to question his own actions and statements.

The three documentaries we are recommending here explore three different and equally important eras in Hollywood’s love-hate relationship with telling the truth.

FLAHERTY—BIRTH OF ‘DOCUMENTARIES’

Filmmakers have been trying to capture “real life” since Eadweard Muybridge began making experimental “moving photos” of humans and animals in the 1880s. By the 1890s, Thomas Edison was capturing film clips inside a studio and, in 1895, the Lumiere brothers stunned the world by moving their cameras outside. One of the landmarks of early cinema was a short Lumiere movie of a locomotive arriving at a station, which caused some viewers to leap out of their seats before they were hit by the looming train!

Very quickly, however, moviemakers began focusing on popular entertainers, especially Vaudevillians, comedians and actors from the stage. It wasn’t until the 1920s that major figures in the film world began to establish a separate genre of movies called “documentaries.” In fact, the term was coined by an influential film critic in Scotland, John Grierson, who used it to describe the work of an American: Robert Flaherty.

Icarus Films’ Boatload of Wild Irishmen makes it clear why this era is far more than a tidbit of historical trivia. When pioneering moviemakers like Flaherty began circling the planet, trying to capture footage of remote native communities, they had no ethical rules to follow. Along the way, they felt free to dramatically change the communities they filmed. The “boat” in the title refers to an infamous scene in which Flaherty convinced three men to launch their tiny boat in the middle of a storm, nearly killing the men in the process.

What is fascinating in Boatload is the way descendants of the original native communities, a century later, tend to describe these early movies with great nostalgia and pride. While later critics savaged directors like Flaherty for endangering people and sometimes faking their scenes of “real life,” the descendants point out that no one else ever showed up to document their lives. These early movies now are treasures of their past.

In one South Pacific village, a descendant of men and women filmed by Flaherty tells us that, despite the flaws pointed out by later critics, “We can still see our fathers and grandfathers when they were young. … That’s why the film is so important to us.” No one else in Hollywood—or most of the U.S.—showed any interest in the challenges of island life.

Says another descendant of Flaherty’s feature: “This film is our film. It belongs to this village!”

Sometimes, it seems, factual flaws are not fatal—if the essential, human message is authentically captured. There ethical issues involved are far more nuanced than most viewers realize.

DEPRESSION & RESISTANCE

DVD cover of To Tell the Truth an Icarus film about documentaries

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If you’re serious about exploring these crucial ethical issues—and especially if you plan to organize a small-group discussion—then you’ll also want to get Icarus’s set of two, hour-long segments grouped under the title To Tell the Truth.

The first hour covers the courageous young filmmakers who put themselves in harm’s way during the 1920s and the Great Depression to capture footage of demonstrations, marches and even brutal police crackdowns on protest. All of those dramatic, historical movie clips you’ve glimpsed over the years, perhaps when viewing TV shows about this era, involved some brave soul wading into dangerous situations with bulky cameras.

The second hour covers aspects of filmmaking during World War II that are curiously absent from the final series we are recommending, streamed by NETFLIX.

That new streaming series, called Five Came Home, is a big-budget, three-hour look at five famous Hollywood directors caught up in World War II. But watching NETFLIX, it’s easy to think that they were the only film crews producing movies throughout the war. Of course, that wasn’t true—as the Icarus documentary points out.

In fact, as the three-hour series unfolds, we learn that the five Hollywood directors who went to war were tragically ill prepared to capture the kind of truthful films they dreamed of producing.

‘FIVE CAME HOME’

William Wyler's The Memphis Belle

Director William Wyler finally risked his own life to create a documentary, The Memphis Belle, about the real experiences of an American bomber crew during World War II.

Five Came Home certainly is dazzling, featuring amazing still photos and historical film clips gathered for this production! If you care about WWII history, or classic film, you’ll be pointing at the screen repeatedly as famous people and events flash past.

It’s easy to forget the underlying lesson here: The relationship between truth and media is always complicated and often flawed.

Ironically, the new U.S. President’s chief Hollywood critic, Meryl Streep, is the main narrator for Five Came Home. What we learn from her narration is that all five directors, including John Huston and Frank Capra, were fully committed to filming truthful stories that would help defeat the Axis powers and end the war. But, before each director was able to achieve anything close to that goal, each man wound up bumbling and stumbling over a host of obstacles.

The only conclusion one can draw from the lives—and the legacies—of these Hollywood directors is that they cared so deeply about truth that they paid dire costs to portray it on screen.

Some injuries were physical. John Ford was shot in the leg. William Wyler lost nearly all of his hearing. Their three movie-making colleagues suffered other kinds of wounds. John Huston poured himself into directing Let There Be Light, the first honest look at post-traumatic stress among WWII veterans—only to find the movie seized by the U.S. Army as dangerously un-American and suppressed for several decades. George Stevens’ film footage of the liberation of the Dachau concentration camp was used to help convict the Nazis on trial at Nuremberg. But, Stevens’ intense immersion in documenting the Holocaust left him traumatized.

Overall, this is an inspiring story for those of us who admire media professionals. Despite their early mistakes and, in some cases, errors sparked by their own ambitions—truth won out in the work of all five directors.

That’s why we are recommending all three sets of documentaries, this week. Each presents a different perspective on the enormous challenge media professionals face in trying to portray the truth. We are journalists ourselves, here at ReadTheSpirit, and we encourage you to enjoy as many of these offerings as you can.

This ongoing conflict between truth and the real-world demands of mass media is an ongoing struggle. We all need to understand the risks and costs involved.

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PW Magazine on Blue Ocean: ‘Jesus is still a fascinating figure’

Publishers Weekly PW magazine March 27 2017 with story on Blue Ocean 05 closeupPublishers Weekly magazine’s Senior Religion Editor Lynn Garrett reports this week on important new books that reflect the transformation of traditional religious boundaries nationwide. Like Garrett, we’ve also been covering this important news story for a number of years at ReadTheSpirit.

We are pleased that Garrett highlighted the newly released Blue Ocean Faith: The Vibrant Connection to Jesus that Opens Up Insanely Great Possibilities in a Secularizing World—And Might Kick Off a New Jesus Movement by Dave Schmelzer.

Garrett is a long-time expert on trends in American religion—and publishing. She opens her 5-page story by summarizing the latest data on “Nones.” (As we explained in our own cover story last week with Diana Butler Bass, that’s the label for the nearly 1 in 4 Americans who tell pollsters “None” when asked to give their religious affiliation.)

Garrett writes that millions of these Nones have abandoned traditional religions and now “seek to replace what those faiths provided—guidance, encouragement, comforting rituals and sacraments, even community.” Then, Garrett asks: Where are these men and women seeking? One place is books!

As she describes this new spiritual frontier, she starts with a wide range of physical-spiritual resources from mindfulness and yoga to disciplines that can control addiction. The link between recovery and spirituality has been an all-American connection since at least the founding of Alcoholics Anonymous in 1935 and, today, publishers continue to offer new books on regaining mind-body-spirit balance.

Garrett also points to the long tradition of writing, storytelling and personal memoir as a source of spiritual renewal. (Stay tuned if you love this genre! In April, ReadTheSpirit will be recommending Barbara Mahany’s newest collection of “small moments,” called Motherprayer: Lessons in Loving.)

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Click this March 27 2017 PW cover to read Lynn Garrett’s entire article. 

Garrett covers Blue Ocean in the second half of her report in which she looks at various ways that Christian communities are trying to break down the barriers that have scattered so many of the Nones. She concludes:

“Despite disillusionment with Christianity as an establishment, Jesus is still a fascinating and mysterious figure for many.”

Care to read more?

Find out about Blue Ocean!

 

 

 

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